“After the wedding, no one will even care.”
Believe it or not, this is the nicest and most welcomed consolation I have been given so far when it comes to wedding planning and the drama that ensues.
Let me tell you, wedding planning isn’t a cake walk. It’s not just about choosing between ivory and eggshell or picking chicken over steak. (As if steak was ever an option. Fun-ny.)
Wedding planning is about learning to say no to those closest to you, being emotionally mature enough to recognize that you can’t make everyone happy, and having enough confidence in your vision to reject the unrelenting notions to add this or choose that.
My family and friends have been such a great support system. I would love to take this moment to say THANK YOU SO MUCH for being there, for caring (at just the right level), and for making me feel in control of this wedding. I definitely plan on showing you all just how much I appreciate it.
Many of them know me well enough to know how to be there and not be there at the same time. They know not to push certain things, but to provide ideas and pinterest pins when necessary. Almost all of them have provided such great ideas and advice.
As for the others who have provided me nothing but drama, insecurities and pressure, I have come to look in expectation to what so many have told me: “Don’t worry, in just a couple of months the wedding will be over and no one will even care.”
For all of you who have told me that….Thank you.
Of course I want a beautiful wedding, but I am a simple girl. I am not going to spend thousands of dollars on flowers and food, and do not intend on having debt from a celebration that literally only lasted a few hours.
My wedding won’t be the event of the season, and that’s okay because it will be the event of my lifetime.
It relieves me to be reminded that for everyone else this is just a wedding. They’ll go home and say “that was nice” or “the food was too spicy”, and that’s it. They may think of it every once in a while over the years, but that’s it.
What colors I pick, who my florist is, the flavor of the cake, the music we dance to, everything will be in the past. A memory. That’s not just good, it’s FABULOUS.
A wedding is a beautiful occasion, a sacred one. Yes, there’s cake, but it’s no cake-walk.
You guys have any interesting wedding drama stories, or advice on how to deal with it? Share in the comments section.